"TMI?"

How much is too much information in a relationship? I'm having a weird time dealing with some things my boyfriend told me last night regarding his past, er, masturbation habits. We also discussed what a dirty sounding word masturbation is and how we should think of a new one for it. any suggestions?

Anyway I don't want to spill the whole thing in case by some chance he were to read this and feel totally betrayed, but basically he admitted that he used to look at erotic literature a LOT (still does once in a while) and (this is what keeps flashing in my mind) used to masturbate for HOURS AT A TIME. He did this for a few reasons: he was a little depressed and lonely, he had nothing else to do, and he thought that women wanted "stamina" in a man (though at this point he had never been sexual with a woman).

Okay, okay..so I told him in the beginning of our relationship that I wasn't a virgin. What I didn't tell him was that I've slept with just under 10 people and that some of them I had only known a few days and never saw after the fact. I feel like I told him enough to keep him informed, but not TOO much that might stick in his head and make him feel jealous and icky inside.

I think I'm mostly fine with the fact that he still looks at porn once in a while. I also think it's good that we talked about it..when those things are a secret they get bigger and have more power over you. Of course if we were ever closer to marriage I would want to talk about what that looks like in that setting and how we would handle it if it ever became an issue....I definitely think it's okay that he masturbates-- so do I. So why do I keep picturing him as this young depressed kid masturbating for hours at a time and feel really creeped out and confused? It's not who he is anymore and I think my past is equally as disturbing. I know I have to give myself a little slack and let myself feel weird about it for a while - it will probably go away on it's own- but it's bothering me.